Navigating the Emotional Landscape of 'Stayers': A Guide to Thriving in Transitions

Transitioning from high school to university is a monumental step, filled with excitement and challenges.

But what about those who don't make this leap right away or the parents and carers who stay behind?

In our latest podcast episode, we delve into the often-overlooked experiences of 'stayers'—students taking gap years, parents adjusting to empty nests, and others who undergo significant emotional changes without physically moving.

At Successful Student Transitions, our mission is to support young people as they navigate these pivotal moments. As we highlight during our conversation, change doesn't always mean moving from one place to another. Sometimes, the most profound transformations happen right where you are.

The episode begins with exciting news: our new course, "Thrive in Your First Weeks at University," is now live. This course is designed to help students embrace change, adjust, and ultimately thrive in their new environments. You can learn more HERE

But what if you're not moving? What if you're staying behind while others embark on new adventures?

We explore the emotional complexities of being a 'stayer.' Whether you're a student taking a gap year, a parent watching your child leave for university, or someone staying in the same school while friends move on, the feelings of loss and change are real and significant. They emphasise the importance of acknowledging these emotions and finding healthy strategies to cope.

One key takeaway from the episode is the RAFT framework - Reconciliation, Affirmation, Farewell, and Think Ahead. This model helps 'stayers' navigate their emotional journey by recognising the change, appreciating what has gone well, saying goodbyes, and planning for the future. It's a valuable tool for anyone feeling the impact of others moving on while they stay put.

Louise shares personal insights from her own experience as a parent. Her daughter recently went from planning a gap year to suddenly packing up for university within five days. This whirlwind transition left Louise and her husband as 'stayers,' grappling with the empty space at home. She reflects on the importance of supporting her daughter while also taking care of her own emotional well-being.

The episode also touches on the dynamics of friendships during these transitions. We discuss how relationships evolve and the importance of maintaining connections even when physical proximity changes. We encourage 'stayers' to give space to those who have moved on but also to nurture long-term friendships.

For parents, the episode offers valuable advice on supporting their children while also finding new meaning and purpose in their own lives. The transition to an empty nest can be challenging, but it's also an opportunity to explore new interests and activities.

In conclusion, this episode is a heartfelt exploration of the emotional landscape of 'stayers.' It's a reminder that even when you're not the one moving, change is still happening, and it's essential to acknowledge and address it. Whether you're a student, parent, or anyone experiencing this type of transition, the insights and strategies shared in this episode will help you navigate this journey with resilience and grace.

Tune in to the full episode HEREor HERE for more in-depth discussions and practical tips on thriving as a 'stayer.' And don't forget to check out our new course, "Thrive in Your First Weeks at University," for additional support during these transformative times.